As a part of National Home Care Month, we thought we’d discuss those difficult conversations surrounding home care and hospice.
As we grow up, it’s our parents who look after us. They cook, they provide, they support us and listen to us through tough times. However, one day, there’s a strong likelihood that this will be the other way around. As our parents get old, it’s often the next generation who wields the responsibility of caring and looking after them. This can be a really rewarding, personal, and even exciting experience for the whole family. However, how should you talk to your kids about this?
This article will provide some useful tips to incorporate into your new hospice home life for your kids, from emotional support to respecting new rules, here’s what you need to know.
Moving in with their children as a grandparent is an emotional time: their freedom is somewhat altered, emotions are in the air, and a new way of life is about to begin. To start with, it’s important for your kids to be wary of their grandparent’s emotions. Be sure to respect, be kind, and take care of them whenever you can. They’re most likely going through a challenging transition in their life and need all the emotional support they can get.
Keep them busy by playing games, run them errands, and suggest a family movie and or board game nights some fun and friendly competition.
Creating and respecting rules
Living with grandparents often results in new rules to be created. For example, bedtime may be set in stone, the house may need to remain tidy and trip hazard free at all times, and the number one priority may shift to taking care of the grandparents.
It’s important to respect these rules and create a sense of stability after such a stark transition. Getting used to living with new people is not an easy task, so setting up ground rules can help ease some of the stress.
Let them know they’re not contagious
It may sound silly – however, you’d be surprised how many kids think that just because their grandparent is ill and now living at home that they’re contagious. Sit them down, have a little chat and let them know exactly what is going on and how best as a family, and themselves are going to help out around the house now that things are changing.
As well as this, while having a little chat, it’s best to let them know that their grandparent’s emotions, whether this is anger, frustration, or sadness, it’s not their fault. Children are super sensitive and often need reassuring, it’s best to do it from the get-go and let them know.
Lastly, treasure these moments! They won’t be around forever, make the most of each and every day, laugh, have fun, play the occasional board game and make family time a priority, it’ll do a world of wonder.