Everyone is bound to have one of those days. You know, the type of day where you have a flat tire, spill coffee on yourself, or get some kind of bad news. Sometimes it’s more than a day. Sometimes the car, washing machine, and air conditioner all go out at the same time. How you react in those moments isn’t necessarily important, what is important is how you bounce back from these moments. Do you drown in self-pity or wallow in mourning for your beloved car? Or do you have your moment of frustration, pick your self up and move forward? Building individual resilience is important, and can be the difference in how you respond to these fiascos. So, how do we build resilience?
Connecting with family, friends, and coworkers is important. Having someone who will be there to talk or listen when you need it is an asset in building personal resilience. Knowing that you have someone to count on is both comforting and empowering.
Let It Go
Knowing and accepting that you can’t control the stressful events that may be happening around you, but you can control how you respond and let them affect you. Keeping things in perspective can make dealing with stressful events more manageable.
Instead of shutting down or being indecisive, act! Wallowing in your stresses won’t make them go away. By taking action and making intentional decisions you are able to work your way out of a stressful circumstance. Make a plan, and then work it!
Pay attention to how the stresses or problems have made you stronger. Notice the areas you were able to adapt, and the areas where you need improvement. According to the American Psychological Association (2015), people who have made their way to the other side of stressful event or hardship showed an increase in self worth, more meaningful relationships, and an appreciation for life.
Take Care Of You
Be aware of what you need. If you need a moment to take a breath before deciding how to handle a problem, take it. Spend time away from work exercising, reading, or doing something that you enjoy. Be sure to get plenty of sleep at night, and to eat right. Make sure you are keeping both mind and body healthy. If you feel like the stress is too much for you to handle on your own, talk to someone.